The dog is his world and Im just a person who lives with him. Actually, here is why your husband/boyfriend wants to rehome the dog? Because shes a dog. If my husband would meet me halfway and at least hold the baby long enough for me to take the dog out then he wouldnt have the occasional accident now. I can put myself in his shoes in many ways but not with that thing. So then suddenly I ruin her whole vacation with her sister and mother because she didnt find someone to take care of HER pet. At first I had to fight to sit by my husband. All in all its a dog, not a person & even though he has strong feelings for them Im disappointed that he doesnt have stronger feelings about me. I didnt realize until now pets could cause trouble in relationships.. always been in one that where we are both on same side or at same level of animal love.. I absolutely LOATHE our dog. Thank you all. Im not a dog and wont be treated like that. I have two dogs when I met my boyfriend (now husband). My pet would have came after the 2nd call or knew I would punish them. Its not that I dont like dogs, it just that I didnt sign up to basically retrain a dog that isnt mine and that I cant be in charge of setting boundaries for. If you leave, it will hurt at first, it always does, as the movie Hope Floats has a very good line, Beginnings are scary, endings are usually sad, but its whats in the middle that counts. We picked up Chatty Cathy and she is a young cat that talks way too much and does not listen! Last weekend I slept over and was going to make us pancakes for breakfast. Hi. The constant cleaning continues but thats all we can do. My husband also smells dirty like dogs because they lick him and he cuddles them all over the place. She has told me and her parents that she feels the same way. Hi Logan, I am living the same situation with my bf. So true! My family always let the dogs stay inside. He is not used to being yelled at all the time for not doing anything wrong and it is tearing me apart. Cats are cleaner than dogs and very easy to take care of. If you have a high-energy canine friend that seeks numerous amount of exercises on a daily basis, with or without intention, it will play rough with your kids. Overtime I thought I started liking and loving the pet and that it was growing on me. I have spoken to her many times about my frustrations but she says I am overreacting and insensitive. Its fantasy to think otherwise. I have even volunteered as a charity dog walker to try and alleviate the sadness I feel, but its simply not the same. She didnt beg or whine constantly. If i made any of you guys live with something you hated you will 100% get it. But I will always place my partner above my pet. If the dog is unmannerly and untrained, that is what dog trainers are for. When I come home and open the door it smells so horrible that Ive thrown up a couple times from it. He stuck to his decision. Hes drinking and now back to as he says dabbling in drugs. She tells me I am the one with issues if a dog being in the house is causing mental distress. I went into the relationship not thinking my pets would be a problem,but since he has virtual power over the household, he has decided that they have to go. If you love nice clean things, Im sorry but you arent going to have that in the dog house so youll have to put that out of your mind until he/she passes and you dont get another. Our dog is a little sensitive to certain noises and he probably gets a little bored. Its ok, to talk about THOSE little ugly things. Its self humiliation and you ARE worth more than that! Should he hit the puppy? Well, I put my foot down and said NO MORE PETS. A dog cannot call you out when youre wrong like a person can. It is super disgusting how bad behavior is rewarded with these Chihuahuas. So now I find that every time we watch a movie or do anything shes right there on the couch with him while Im the third wheel. If anyone has been in a similar situation Id be grateful for any advice you can offer. What magical power does he possess over you? It is putting a stress on our relationship. I just got done reading this article and all of the comments and its fair to say there are people who love dogs like they are their own children and then there are people who dont understand that at all. My pup does chew but not on her things like she use to do. I have never allowed her on the bed Id read something about alpha dogs and I was trying to impress my alpha on her.that night I put her on a blanket on the side of me in the bed.I realized that I was afraid to care about anyone or anything againand that I had not taking anything into account about her behavior and needed to research how to care and train her. You deserve a man who will make you number one in his life! When she says I murdered it shes not being facetious; she literally believes, and has said repeatedly, that putting that dog down was dog murder despite the vet thought it was long past time. Because of that, your husband may think the do is far better off in your house free of little ones. I treat both equally. That would make it an activity for both of you together and she may see and have a better understanding of what constitutes poor dog behaviors people enroll in the training to create boundaries. I had them for years. Its not the dog, its the owner. When I have to go out of town I often have my mom watch her because I know if she is at home she will not be happy and wont do anything but sit in her crate, eat and go outside. Even IF your house is a zoo at times! And building a strong relationship with another person requires a tremendous investment of time but can yield tremendous rewards in the long run, rewards that can never be realized with an animal. I had gotten to the point I use to say, if the two of us were drowning, who would my spouse save? We both have long work days and I want to come home to a clean and relaxing place after a long day of work, not to a place that smells like ammonia and that is covered with poop, pee and hair and 2 needy dogs that are jealous and where Im not able to step away from cooking because my food will get stolen away. IT has to sleep in our room or else IT will bark and complain. We only have one vehicle which is mine but we just moved and are trying to get caught up money wise (he makes more) so I said I would stay home until we can get another vehicle. If it werent for having a child with him Id be off out of there as soon as possible. A muzzle doesnt help either, because my wife hates the stigma attached to dogs with a muzzle on, and she wants people to know what a loveable creature that piece of s*** is. Train: You have to spend more time training the dog not to bark. It is almost like being married to both brothers. Sometimes we do everything right. But he always begged to get rid of him or constantly goes on walks to get away from him. He admitted hed never told me he was frightened of them and thought it wouldnt be an issue, despite knowing how much I wanted a dog. I hate how this one barks when someone comes to the door. There have been instances while I have not been home that my dog will pee on the floor when he wants her to go outside or if he walks into the room (this has happened 5 times over 2 years). She has put a section of the room with pads on the floor so the dog can go there to pee while we are at work. . To be honest, we cannot complete the obedience train on a specific day because it is a consistent and ongoing process where you can teach the dog new tricks and commands every day. So I would encourage you to stand firm now before you get too emotionally involved with him. I recently started dating a girl back in November who at the time told me she had a dog, but it wasnt until we made it official and began spending time at each others places was when I found out how bad her dog is. Second is that your facts arent actual facts. Having emotional attachments to animals can be a hinderance to strong Except hes getting attacked he will defend himself. My boyfriends dog slept with us at first but my health deteriorated, to the point my doctor told me we had to get rid of her because my lungs were on the verge of irreversible lung damage, but my boyfriend refused to get rid of her so you have to find solutions. Jennifer- I wound up listening to your advice. We are supposed to get married next year and this whole dog thing is really starting to question my relationship. What should I do, I have know where to go and no money bc everything is in her name and bank account. So heres my story. I get so mad and my wife just says oh, it is ok, he is old. Ive grown up with a couple Shih Tzus, birds, turtles, snakes, etc. I really need to do something about this because Im getting to the point where Im willing to give him away but I know this is something my boyfriend refuses to do. What makes it worse is that my furbaby just got diagnosed with eplisepy and is now costing us a little bit extra in medication (Im talking $20 a month, nothing drastic) but my partner feels the need to rave on about how my dogs fine and faking it. He barked back as if he was getting murdered. She is more possessive of our house (Chesapeake) than others. They do NOT understand human speech. I told her No! But Im not. I dont have children and they have filled that void in my life brings forth the pivot in the issue of dogs/cats with respect to relationships between the animal and the pet owner. Much like a child that begged for a dog and the dog then became the mothers problem. Pretty over it all. Any helpful advice please? My neatness has turned to total anxiety. I cannot tolerate it. Weve had her for 9 yrs since she was 6 mo old. Thats what Im saying. It simply would not be tolerated. He spoils his dogs! I met my husband in 2003, I didnt have a pet then, but very soon after we started dating I acquired a rescue cat called Oscar. Even when I came home from grocery shopping, he would already try to steal items out of my grocer bags!! We have not been together intimately in 3 mos. I just went and got a towel and sat back down miffed. Jack Russells are not apartment dogs they were bred to be rodent catchers/farm animals ect. Years ago I had a niece who got some sort of virus infection on her nose that the doctor said was from her dog. I really dont even know where to start. Training: You have to spend more time training the dog. Destructiveness is also one of the main reasons why some people need to get rid of their dogs. We tried crate training her and shed pee and poop all over herself. Also this puppy is a Pitbull and my partner knows Im scared of these types of dogs. That it was her pet that I had no desire to have or care for and felt it was her responsibility to be taking care of her pet that SHE wants. Then he started joking about how sometimes hell wake up with the bed covered in fur, but that he needs his Mesa cuddles and that it would diminish his happiness and quality of life if she were to no longer be allowed in the bedroom. Commitment to do dogs ummm what about the commitment to your spouseseriously wow. I was fooled into thinking that my boyfriend could have become more into pets in the aftermath of something he deems traumatic to himself. My boyfriend and I have started living together. Hi Waddy Then my bf would get mad at me for making unreasonable demands ie, basically just wanting the dog to be trained. Remove the dog from your house. The main reason why does your dog misbehaves quite often could be a lack of basic obedience training. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and I absolutely 100% do not like his dog. And promises has been broken as far as who comes first, husband or dog. She insists that the dog sleep in the bed. The house always smelled clean and we did have to worry about poop or pee anywhere either as he always went to the litter and we kept that clean. Later, when you are both ready and in agreement, you could develop a plan (with clear conditions) to re-introduce the dogs. Agatha First off your story doesnt make any sense. My yorkie Rocky being one of them. my wife and i just got into another argument due to her dogs! Even more frustrating, this 15 year old pitbull acts no older than 4 or 5 years of age. The smaller ones can stay fresher longer but if you need to wash them its quick and easy. He might seem annoying to her but I love him just like I love her dog.. Hes trying to hump her dog sometimes, I think thats normal in his age. I disagreed whole heartedly. I just dont know what to do. Im not sure what to do at this point, most angry pet owners will just say to leAve or end it. Instead, what you have to do is that identify what influences this disagreeable behavior. The second issue is our puppy. I am at my wits end with this! My blood boils because she is a very smart dog and knows this is wrong. The person in this thread who wrote: I never thought in my life I would have to give up my animals. Only a heartless person can get rid of the dog in such a situation. they should not be anywhere on the bed they have their own. I do not mind dogs at all! He says I cant understand how he feels because I dont like dogs. And not that I would EVER wish harm on an animal, but one good thing is, that your fiancees dog is old and will not live very much longer. Hed spend hours touching the animal while I didnt receive any physical touch. I started liking and loving the pet and that it was growing on me you hated you will 100 get. 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